Men and women are similar in some ways, but at the same time, are on completely opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to how, why and what attracts them. The author John gray, who wrote the famous Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, describes how men and women need to understand one another if they wish to maintain healthy relationships, and that requires learning what attracts the different genders. Have you ever wondered why men and women act and feel differently? There’s a big difference between what women are attracted to, and what men are attracted to. The saying, “it’s not about looks”, well that doesn’t speak for both men and women. FeelingSuccess will elaborate on the differences of what attracts men and what attracts women and provide insight, whether you’re male or female.
Guys Are Visual
Guys act on what they see. They are attracted to the physical attributes of women, which can vary for each man. You will rarely see a guy say, “it’s not about the looks, it’s about the personality”, but a guy will usually say “I want a good looking girl that also has an attractive personality”. So a guy will almost always first react on how the girl looks physically, the way she dresses, her appearance and the way she acts. However, don’t be discouraged and think all men are dogs, because after the looks, they will focus on personality, but looks most definitely come first in their eyes. How a girl physically looks and acts will decide if a guy will want to even consider her approachable. If she fits his test for appearance, then he will get to deciding if the personality is right for him.
Girls Are Emotion Orientated
Girls act on how they feel. Have you ever heard the words “it just feels right”, most likely you’ve heard this from a girl talking about the emotions she experienced with a certain guy. If you’re a guy, you’ve probably seen or met a dude who you would think isn’t the most attractive, but tends to date a lot of beautiful women; it’s because he knows how to make a girl “feel” the attraction towards him.
Gene Simmons is a perfect example of this, let’s face it, Gene Simmons is no George Clooney, but he’s slept with hundreds, if not thousands of women, and has a playboy model for a girlfriend. This is because Gene walks into a room of beautiful women as if every girl is attracted to him, and every girl can feel that type of presence and energy.
So remember guys, women want you to make them “feel” special, they want to experience that roller coaster feeling every time they even think of you. This is often the reason why many girls fall for that bad boy, because he gives them the high flowing emotions and makes them feel special with his confidence and charm.
Men Are Ego Driven and Want Control
Most men have an ego; they like to be leaders, they like to take charge and most of all, they like to be in control. However, women usually call the shots, which make men feel somewhat insecure about themselves. In return, they won’t put as much effort and care into making the women “feel” the emotions they need. So if a girl can make a guy feel like he’s in control, he’ll feel immensely good about himself. Guys have a lot of ego, and as a result, they constantly have this game in their head of who’s taking charge of every situation. Thus if a girl somehow makes a guy feel like he’s in control (if she lets him teach her something, or lets him lead the way when they’re walking etc), he will feel like a leader and he will feel like a man.
Women Are Intuitive and Want Everything to Be Natural
Girls on the other hand, are intuitive; they want everything to feel natural. If a girl has to tell a guy what she likes, or how she feels, she won’t be happy. All women want everything to feel natural as if the guy “just knows”. If you want to appear attractive to your girl, don’t use logic, but do things that you already know will make her day; notice how she feels, of course. A girl’s worst nightmare is a guy who has to be told how she’s feeling.
If you’re a guy, and you want to have more success with women, you need to be able to read how she will feel, and with ease. You need to know when it’s okay to tease a girl, and how to please her without her saying a word. If you’re a woman and you found someone who you think is the “right guy”, let him take control of some situations; ask him if he could teach you something, this will make him much more fulfilled. It’s all about give and take, we need to give the other what they desire, and likewise we need a special someone to fill our voids too! Keeping this in mind will certainly help you attract or maintain the best type of relationships.