Resilience: Key To Over-Achieving, Opposite of Depression

According to depression researcher Peter D. Kramer, who’s studied the field for years, happiness is actually NOT the opposite of depression. Shockingly, his research proves that people diagnosed with depression can not overcome challenges as easy since their mind is convinced that reality is in fact hard and hopeless. Peter states happiness is not the opposite of this, but resilience is. Resilience is also a major key factor seen in most over-achievers, this not to say that resilience is the cure to depression in any way because to actually become resilient is in and of itself is a whole other area that can be elaborated upon.

However, Peter states that the ability to bounce back easily from rejections, and overcome challenging situations are a lot easier when one has positive beliefs that the person can and will get over these situations, and even thrive. is designed to provide evidence of highly resilient people that others look up to; regardless of the other negative areas many famous people have, after analyzing their life stories many of them are resilient.

Webster’s dictionary defines resilience as  the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens. Resilience is a never-give-up attitude, and people who have this trait, have a specific way their view the world. Huffington Post states that resilient people have a couple of key traits, these include the following:


“Resilience – if you think of it in terms of the Gold Rush, then you’d be pretty depressed right now because the last nugget of gold would be gone. But the good thing is, with innovation, there isn’t a last nugget. Every new thing creates two new questions and two new opportunities.” Jeff Bezos ( Founder)


Resilient people have realistic optimism: At FeelingSuccess we believe this term immensely, it’s not being “loony” and faking positivity. It’s seeing the world as it can be (taking the world as it is and being solution-oriented, hopeful, and courageous about how great life can be). There’s a difference between putting on a fake positive expression on the outside while actually feeling down on the inside; and actually changing your perspective, looking for the positives in every situation knowing that life is malleable, flexible and can be reshaped to the way we want it, while also being detached and having complete faith when it comes to the uncontrollable areas.


Resilient people look for growth and learning: Resilient people love the challenge, the embrace it, and welcome it, because they know challenges are the only way to grow. They don’t get frustrated, or negative about issues, instead they get excited because in their minds it’s almost like reaching the “next step” or a good analogy would be getting to the “next level” (like a video game that’s hard to beat).


“I always tell up-and-coming DJs you have to really love what you do and find that interest to drive you. It requires so much attention to detail, and it takes up a lot of your time. You hear a song, and there are so many little pieces that make that song work. It requires a lot of patience, diligence and resilience.” Steve Aoki (House DJ)


Psychology Today states that resilient people have a couple of other key traits, which include the following:

Resilient people practice self-awareness: Resilient people know that self-awareness is a major factor in what determines their own destiny. Self-awareness is the ability to be sensitive to yourself, to know what motivates you, what you enjoy, what you can’t live without, and ultimately what your strengths and weaknesses are. Self-awareness can often be heightened through meditation. Meditation is becoming a common trait among many over-achievers including Kobe Bryant, Oprah Winfrey, Jerry Seinfeld and more.


Resilient people don’t let suffering and setbacks define them: We all from time to time face suffering, setbacks, and have sacrifices to make, but resilient people don’t take it too personally, they understand that this suffering is only temporary, and it’s not who they are at all, deep down they know who they are and what they’re capable of which allows them to take the suffering from an outside perspective. In other words, they can detach their selves from negative events and take it with a grain of salt compared to how much it will help them grow into who they want to become.


When continued resilience, dedication and faith, miracles happen. – Russell Simmons (Phat Farm Founder)




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