“Balance activity with serenity, wealth with simplicity, persistence with innovation, community with solitude, familiarity with adventure, constancy with change, leading with following.” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Deep within each of us there is a center, a point of balance if you will. This point of balance is based on all of the information we have taken in over our lifetimes. Everything we have learned, everything we have been told, everything we have seen, everything we have come to know, is stored in this place. We often refer to it, as our experience. This part of our mind is our subconscious, which guides many of our decisions.
For the purposes of understanding concepts, I find it best to use visual images. For the purpose of this exercise, I would ask you to consider a teeter-totter. Don’t just consider the fulcrum point the teeter-totter pivots from, but more importantly, consider the images we can retrieve by simply thinking of our childhood schoolyard, a playground, or park. There is power in these images if we will but harness it.
For a teeter-totter to function efficiently, there must be a relative balance on each of the seats of the teeter-totter. For life to function efficiently, there must be a relative balance between the various demands life places on us. The teeter-totter will still function if somewhat out of balance, just as life will, but it takes a lot of extra energy to do so. For the heavier individual to enjoy the up experience, extra energy is mandatory. It is the same when one area of our life is heavier than another or out of balance. Extra energy is required to bring life back into balance. The force of the heavier person also makes it difficult for the lighter one to enjoy the full experience of bounding up and down. Life is no different…
Balance is the place our habits arise from. Both our desirable and undesirable habits develop either in our out of balance. Many of the things we do, we simply “DO.” It isn’t until we pause long enough to ask why, that we can even begin to understand some of our basic behaviors. We may not have any real understanding of why we are either doing or not doing a specific task or activity until we make time for this pause. The simplest way to discover an answer is to ask a question. Preferably, whenever possible, we should “consider” asking an empowering question.
Nutrition and exercise are two areas we can easily evaluate by asking empowering questions to uncover behavior patterns and habit thinking versus conscious contemplation. We are all well aware of the importance of nutrition and exercise. As a matter of fact, we are more aware of these facts than we have probably ever been in the history of developed culture. Why then are we facing an epidemic of obesity in America? What gives? What is missing from the equation of knowledge?
The answer is balance. We are simply not balancing our knowledge with choice. Knowing something is not enough, we must also act. When we act with balance, we can make more informed choices, more informed decisions. It is the balance of activity with relaxation that leads to healthier choices. It is the balance of smaller portions and not all out denial, that leads to smarter choices. Understanding is not enough either, we must also consciously acknowledge the results of our choices.
We must first decide what it is we actually want and then consciously choose the activities that will support our desired results. More importantly though, we must have an incredibly compelling “WHY”. Without a compelling why, we will almost certainly fail. Willpower alone is not enough to override our habits. Conscious choice is only ever made when we are consciously aware. Conscious choices are readily made in the absence of other easier more tempting choices that require no discipline. Is it possible to replace our less than desirable habits with conscious choices? Of course it is, this is exactly how we begin the process of regaining balance.
Life is a spectrum with extremes at either end and in the middle their exists balance. Why would we choose to discover how to achieve balance? Why even be interested in balance at all?
The experience of life has the potential be whatever we make of it… What benefits might be available to us with a more balanced life? We have a need for both constancy and change. We value both familiarity and adventure. Some choose to lead in certain areas and follow in others… Is it possible to live both a simplistic and a wealthy life? What is real wealth anyway? It certainly isn’t just monetary! It is the wealth of both ideas and experiences that makes for a rich life and neither are tied directly to monetary wealth.
When we balance activity with serenity, work with play, and desire with discipline, we take control of our lives and create a balanced state. Balanced activity is nothing more than conscious creation. It is simply doing the things we know we are capable of doing and then consciously choosing to do them. The only thing we have any real control over is our own thoughts. We regain balance the moment we acknowledge the truth of this fact and we regain our power the moment we act on this realization. We each have the capacity and the capability to regain balance, the real question is, will we?
Author: Bobby Kountz
Bobby Kountz is a former Oncology Nurse, a seasoned Oncology Sales Professional, and Personal Development Enthusiast. He is also an Inspirational Writer, Professional Speaker, Personal Development and Career Transition Coach, Dedicated Community Volunteer, Social Equality Activist, Mental Health Activist, and Loving Father and Husband.
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